THE DISEASE OF COMPARISON

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6/27/17

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They say necessity is the mother of invention. If that’s the case, I think envy is the mother of comparison. We all do it. We compare ourselves to others and can instantly find where they excel and we are lacking. Especially in the age of social media, it’s easy to fall into the comparison trap. So how do we avoid it? Here are five simple things that help me, and I hope are helpful for you too!

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1. Take a break

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If you find yourself spending a lot of time comparing yourself to others, shut it down before it even begins. When you feel the urge to start delving into other’s achievements in an effort to minimize your own, freeze! Don’t do it. Find something else to do that would be more productive in bettering yourself.

2. Clean up your feed

Social media is a great tool. It helps you connect with friends, clients, and people with a similar lifestyle to your own. It can be a useful platform! For me, Facebook and Instagram helped me to get inspired as a new photographer. I followed so many photographers that my feed became filled with a constant stream of their work. It was great in the beginning, but as I gained more experience I found that I was falling into the comparison trap and constantly measuring my own work against others. If you find this happening to you, don’t be afraid to delete some of the clutter. It’s great to be inspired, but if you narrow it down to a handful of people who really fit with your style it will help you be more productive in your own life, professional or otherwise.

3. Respect your journey

If you are building a business, it may cause you to struggle for a while. It’s NOT easy! It’s hard at every single stage whether you are a beginner or a seasoned pro. Sadly, it’s so easy to look at other’s work and envy their success, but remember everyone started somewhere! They were once in the same space as you, and still have their own trials even if they’re further along in the process. It WILL get easier! But you cannot compare yourself to people who are further along in their journey than you. Be proud of the path you’re on!

4. Focus on what you’re doing

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Once I focused on me, and only me, I saw a huge productivity switch. I was getting more done, and I believe more in my work and my abilities. You have to have tunnel vision right down the path of your own success! Ask yourself- when you focus on what’s in front of you, are you making more progress than when you’re looking at what everyone else is doing?

5. Be proud of your achievements

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Last but not least, be proud of everything you’ve accomplished! It’s easy to fall into the comparison trap, but don’t stay in it too long. Climb your way out, and give yourself a pat on the back. There is always room for improvement, but the most important progress is the progress you’re making towards your own goals. Remember that you’re further along than where you started!

If necessity is the mother of invention, and envy is the mother of comparison- what is the mother of success? I think this is defined in a different way for every person, but the most important thing to remember is to stand firm in your own journey and be proud of your accomplishments! Avoid the comparison trap and focus on your own improvements. You’ll be glad you did!

Your journey is yours and yours alone. Working towards overcoming the quicksand trap of comparison is something that has helped me in my photography, business, and personal journey.

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  1. Niki Bradley

    June 28th, 2017 at 1:35 AM

    Carrie…. Thank you for this blog. I fins myself quite guilty of this often. This is a great reminder.

  2. Kat

    June 29th, 2017 at 9:49 AM

    Very helpful tips and a good read. I feel if I spend too much time on social media (instagram especially) it’s making me feel depressed and dawn. So yes, comparing one to the the other ‘online’ is not such a good idea indeed. Instead of motivation and inspiring it does the opposite. Taking a step back and relax, don’t feel guilty (we need to post daily, right :-)) has helped on that. Thanks for putting this list together, it will go on my mood board 🙂

  3. Kasey

    June 29th, 2017 at 12:57 PM

    Love this post! I’ve become consumed by comparison a lot in my life, cleaning up my social media feeds has really helped!

  4. Melissa

    June 29th, 2017 at 3:59 PM

    This is a great list! I feel like catching ourselves when in an envy spiral, and for me the shame spiral that comes with it, is something we have to be mindful of every day. Everyone’s highlight reels are in front of us all day long, so it’s essential that we appreciate others success without putting ourselves down for having a different journey.

  5. Mindy

    June 29th, 2017 at 9:02 PM

    Yes! This is so true! I find myself doing this a lot and it can really wear you down. I love this idea of taking a break. Thank you for these great tips!

  6. RM

    June 29th, 2017 at 9:24 PM

    These are great tips… We need to remember not to compare ourselves to others…

  7. Lisa

    June 29th, 2017 at 9:53 PM

    These are all great tips! I can totally see how they would help. Thanks for sharing

    XO-Lisa

    http://www.thatssodarling.com

  8. Amanda

    June 30th, 2017 at 1:56 PM

    These tips are great! Thank you! Now that I think about it, comparing even my schedule to my husband’s can take my joy away. Thank you for this!

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